6 Reasons Why Women Cheat.

You’re doing all you can to fight back the tears and convince yourself that you won’t be a punk when it comes to this. Yet no matter how much you try to stick to your “manly” guns, you find yourself tossing and turning at night, repeatedly asking this one question…

“Why did she cheat on me?”

You’ve contemplated several scenarios in an attempt to explain her behavior, yet this whole thing feels more complicated than that Lauryn Hill unplugged album. Well allow me a chance to provide some clarity to your rapidly deteriorating relationship by sharing with you “6 Reasons Women Cheat.”

1. You Changed
Once upon a time, you were the most romantic and thoughtful guy this side of Cupid. Somehow that all changed though, and now your romanticism is a thing of the past…kind of like Keith Sweat’s music career. Maybe your job had you bogged down. Or perhaps your financial situation drastically changed. Now that I think about it, you may have just gotten lazy. Whatever the case may be, she found someone else to fill the suddenly huge void you left in her life.

2. The Thrill is Gone
You used to rock her world. These days, the only thing that’s being consistently rocked are the kids to sleep. The sad part is that I receive at least 9 to 10 emails a week from women who all claim to be bored out of their minds with their husbands and boyfriends. They say you’ve become robotic, and that the relationship has gotten too predictable. You give the same gifts, say the same things, go on the same dates, and have sex the EXACT SAME WAY. Now I’m by no means excusing their behavior, but if the roles were reversed, what would you do?

3. Escape Plan
In her mind, it was determined long ago that you weren’t the man for her. But instead of just coming out and expressing this, she tried to find an “easier” way out of the relationship. So she cheated, and purposely got caught. (Fly fact: If you actually think you caught her because you happen to be some kind of super-sleuth, then you’re actually more delusional than Flava Flav’s fashion stylist…and his personal groomer…oh, and his dental hygienist too.)
Now that she’s been caught red-handed, the ball is in your court, and the tough decision is no longer her responsibility. Mission accomplished.

4. Self-Esteem Issues
Some women deal with issues of low self-esteem that seemingly can’t be repaired by the love and attention of one man. So instead of just allowing you the opportunity to love her, she seeks the validation of multiple men, which in some twisted way makes her feel more loved. (It’s almost as if she’s running for public office, and needs to collect as many votes as possible to validate her candidacy.)

5. Revenge
If you didn’t believe in karma before this happened, I’m pretty sure you do now. While I’ve never been an advocate of exacting revenge within a relationship, the bottom line is that she ONLY did this because you cheated first. So the next time you look in the mirror, I need you to repeat the same phrase I make Michael Jackson say every morning…
“I did this to myself.”

6. She’s Just No Good
As much as men get a notoriously bad rap for being no good, there are many women out here that are just as dirty. There’s no real rhyme or reason to why they can’t be faithful…they just like to get around. In fact, you’d probably have a better chance at getting Lester from “227″ a new acting gig, than you would at convincing her to stay on the straight and narrow. In those types of situations, you can’t blame yourself for her actions. Just recognize what it is, and get out while you can.

Fly Guy Moral:
Now that you’ve gained a better understanding of why women cheat, do you feel any better? I didn’t think so. Understanding why someone cheated won’t make the pain go away any faster. That can only come from a sincere love of self, and from the love of a higher power; who in my opinion is the only one truly capable of healing and restoring your broken heart.

http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2008/03/30/6-reasons-women-cheat/

Women Cheat Too!!

There is a great myth being circulated out there that women don’t cheat, women are faithful, women are loyal. Women stay home and tend the hearth. This is, of course, a lie. Think about it – in this day and age, women have the same rights as men. Men and women are almost equal in terms of economic, social, political and domestic power in the western world. A few decades ago, women did not have the opportunity to cheat even if they wanted to. We did not have the luxury of being able to work and play outside of the home. Now we can. And the balance of power has shifted in more ways than one. Sue Shellenberger, author of ‘The Breaking Point’, a book about female midlife crisis, writes that a 3,000 person study from the American National Opinion Centre in 2002 shows that the overall rate for female infidelity is rising and fast approaching that of men, with ‘one in six married women saying they have had affairs’. Of course, cheating wives and girlfriends are nothing new. If we are logically thinking about this, men who cheat have got to be doing it with someone. Who do you suppose they’re having the affair with? There’s only a finite pool of single women and most of them don’t like tangling with men who are taken – there’s too much of risk. Women who are already in relationships are a different story. It’s easier to have a fling when you know you’ve got a fall-back plan if things turn ugly. There are, of course, different levels of cheating. How seriously you identify with which often depends on beliefs, upbringing and social conditioning. There are couples who have open relationships who are quite happy with their situation. But here is where honesty comes into it. Open relationships are based on knowledge, infidelity is based on lies and deceit. The two basic forms of infidelity are: emotional and physical. Both genders are just as susceptible to both, although it has been thought in the past that women tend towards emotional cheating and men towards physical. However, female sexuality is now seen as a natural and healthy form of expression and women are just as likely to try and find sexual fulfilment outside of the relationship if they feel dissatisfied. Emotional cheating ranges from knowingly dating someone else behind your man’s back, to getting into a situation where you are so emotionally close to someone that you fall in love with them. Emotional cheating is seen as less calculated than physical, but are just as deliberate in the sense that you often have to let yourself before you can fall for someone else. Physical cheating means just that – kissing, sexual petting (with or without clothes), oral sex, full-blown sex, etc. Most people in relationships define early on what they would construe as cheating, with some including dirty dancing with someone else, and others who see kissing another person as not. Again, it goes back to individual taste. What is the best solution for a female cheat on the verge of getting caught? Experts are divided on this. Some advocate the tell-all approach on the basis that you cannot have an honest, healthy relationship based on a lie. Subduing your conscience can destroy your relationship anyway because it will make you act differently and build walls between you and your partner. On the other hand, it is known that males are more likely to end a relationship when they discover infidelity. In other words, if you truly want to save your relationship and are absolutely, 100% certain that this will never happen again, then sometimes it is best not to tell. Telling salves no-one’s conscience but your own and if your man is not the forgiving type, then you can kiss him goodbye forever. Of course, in both situations, it requires some soul searching on the part of the guilty woman. Infidelity is a painful experience, especially for the person being cheated on. Finding out the root of your unfaithfulness is a good start, and this often stems from being unhappy with some part of your life, but not knowing where. My advice? Don’t do it, girls. Contrary to popular opinion: Boys are not toys.
By: Karen Tay

http://www.nzgirl.com/articles/5052