Women Like Me Are the Reason Why Men Cheat.

I recently did an interview with a woman I met in a bookstore. I noticed when she walked in she was immediately noticed by the men in the store. I must admit she was very pretty and she was nicely dressed. Every isle she went down men were trying to talk to her. The married men stared until their wives brought them back to reality. I walked up to this woman and asked her if she wouldn't mind answering a few questions. When I told her what the subject was about she was more than eager to talk. We sat down to have one of the most eye opening interviews that I have ever done.

LWilson: Why do you think men cheat?
Zora: Women are the reason men cheat. Think about it, the point of cheating usually is for pussy and only women have that.

LWilson: Do you think other women enable men to cheat on their spouse.
Zora: Yes, I'm that woman or I was that woman. Look I'm not saying that women are responsible for men's actions. I'm just saying if women put their feet down and stop fucking men in relationships, stop taking them back after they cheat, and stop settling for men who aren't worth a dime because they are scared to be alone.

LWilson: So you're saying you use to enable men to cheat?
Zora: Yes, I would sleep with men in relationship just out of spite to other women.

LWilson: What do you mean out of spite to other women?
Zora: All my life women have been mean to me because I'm pretty. I'm not conceited about my looks I don't think I'm that pretty to be honest. Everywhere I have gone women treated me like I was their sole enemy. Just because I walk in the room it doesn't mean I want your man. I frankly don't give a damn about you or your man.

LWilson: I did notice a few women that cut their eyes at you, but does that justify sleeping with men that are in relationships?
Zora: No, it doesn't justify my actions; however it made me feel a hell of a lot better for a long time. I'm older now so I see things a little different then i did before. I felt like I was taking justice into my own hands. I was shunned from many things I want in life because other women were intimidate by me. I had so called friends that wouldn't take me around the boyfriends/husbands because they didn't want them to see me. One of my friends told me she knew that I was prettier then she was, so her and some of my other friends wouldn't call me to go out with them because all the men would flock to me. It hurt to know that, I felt like an outcast. So out of spite I did what I did.

LWilson: So did you pick out men because of their spouses actions toward you?
Zora: Usually they were men I met somewhere. Most of the men I cheated with I never know their spouses.

LWilson: I'm confused you said you did it out of spite to other women that mistreated you, right?
Zora: Yes and No, I slept with men in relationships out of spite to all women that mistreated me not just the ones I knew. That was just what I was telling myself to make me feel good. Usually for women, like the ones in this bookstore, I would flirt with their man just to piss them off.

LWilson: When did you change you actions? Did something happen?
Zora: I changed the way I viewed things about 3 years ago. I was caught up in some drama with this guy who was cheating on his wife. She found out the hotel we were in and showed up very pissed. She came in the room with a key because stupid put the room in his real name and she was his wife so they just gave her a key at the front desk. She came in and the look on her face was horrible. She had so much pain and love in her eyes, it shook me up. The next day I sat in my big tub, in my big house and realized that I was in a loveless marriage. I don't ever recall looking at my husband with that much love ever. He was just the only man with enough balls to ask me to marry him, to be honest he was a dick and I didn't want to be alone. I realized that I planned out my daily schedule so I could cheat on him. I realized I hated my life, I hated myself. All I did was give the women I hated power over my life.

LWilson: Earlier you said that usually you didn't know their spouse. Was there a case were you did?
Zora: Yes. I had a friend, I'll call him John, I loved him so much, but he never asked me out or dropped a hint that he wanted something more. For years we hung out, flirted with each other, and even kissed every now and then. He started dating this girl name Jane (lol) they fell in love and the rest was history. His wife and I got really close, we shopped, we gossiped, we even went to movies when John had to work late. Well, Jane went out-of-town to visit her family. I called John to see if we could hang out so I could gripe about a bad date I had. It seemed like we were just talking and then we were kissing. He looked at me and told me that he had always loved me and couldn't ignore it anymore. I was horrified, not by what he said but at the fact that I didn't feel bad for his wife, for my friend. We had an affair for about three years. Then I told him I couldn't do it anymore. I quit my job and I left the state. I still can't forgive myself for what I did to my friend.

LWilson: If you were horrified about how you felt, why did you continue the affair for three years?
Zora: I was selfish; I finally had what I wanted. I needed it, I had love. I didn’t care how I was getting it. Anybody who says that they don’t need love in their life is lying. Believe me I know because I lied to myself for a long time and when love came I was overcome by how much I needed it.

LWilson: So do you think he could possible love you and his wife?
Zora: It’s possible to love two people, you love each one differently. We loved each other if things would have been different we would have been married, but things weren’t that way. We both were wrong and I believe I made the right decision.

LWilson: What made you just up and leave?
Zora: I was becoming to selfish I wanted him to myself. I would point out things to make him upset at her so he would come to me. I lost myself in it. I knew I would never stop. I didn’t have the self control not to start it, let alone end it.

LWilson: Did you tell her about the affair before you left?
Zora: No, I was too afraid to ruin her happiness, sometimes ignorance is bliss. I was also afraid to face her, I was a coward.

LWilson: Do you know if she ever found out?
Zora: I don't know. I email them every now and then just to keep in contact, but she has never mention it. In my heart I think she knew, every woman knows when she is sharing her man. I knew when my husband started cheating. I didn't really care, but I know what he was doing.


I only scratched the surface of this interview I will post more of it has I type it out.

Respect.......?

After speaking to an older man on how he views men accepting a women cheating, I was left with my mouth wide open.

LWilson: Have you ever been cheated on?
Sam: Yes, when she cheated I felt it as soon as I looked at her. She was balling when I walked in the door. She broke my heart.

LWilson: Did you cheat on her?
Sam: Yes, but with her permission.

LWilson: That would not be cheating if you had permission, right?
Sam: Yes and No, I set the terms. Whenever, wherever, and however I wanted and I would let her know about it when I did.

LWilson: Did you cheat right away?
Sam: No I made her sweat it out for a while.

LWilson: Did you forgive her? Did the relationship continue?
Sam: Yes, I did forgive her and we continued the relationship, but I had to have insurance policy to keep her respect.

LWilson: Insurance to keep respect? I'm confused, what do you mean?
Sam: You see I had it in my head and it is true, you forgive a woman for cheating and she simply looses respect for you.

LWilson: So how did you keep her respect for you?
Sam: I turn her in to my little slut.

LWilson: You turned her into a slut? How so? How did that keep respect in the relationship?
Sam: I turned us into swingers as a punishment. She was naughty as hell anything i wanted, 2 guys on 1 girl sort of thing. I really prefer the two women on me thing to be honest, but this was her punishment.

LWilson: So she only did it because she cheated?
Sam: Yes and also to make me happy. You see we loved each other deeply; as a matter of fact I still love her to this day.

LWilson: Are you guys still together?
Sam: No, the swinging was our demise.

LWilson: So you plan backfired?
Sam: Yes, Because it derived from the wrong nature, I went over board.

LWilson: So would you do the same thing again?
Sam: Yes, but I would have stop it earlier. If she wanted to continue it we would have, but I know she wouldn't have wanted that.

Here is just a taste.

I did an interview a few days ago with a female and these are a few of the answers she gave to the questions I asked.

Do you think women enable men to cheat?
Yes! Women settle all the time. If women allow it why would men change what they are doing? “Why pay for the milk when you can get it for free,” is a very true statement. Women convince themselves that is ok that he cheats with statements like "He always comes home to me". Withholding sex is another thing that some women do that enables men to cheat. If he stops giving you what you feel like you need (romance, emotional connection, etc) you will go somewhere else for it, same thing for him. Another thing is at the beginning of the relationship you cooked, you cleaned, and take care of yourself as far as looks, etc. Then a few years go by you change, you complain about cooking and cleaning all the time, you gained weight, or you only dress up on his birthday or holidays. Don't start something you can't finish. Basicly your not the same person he fell in love with, some men go out looking for that old you in someone else.

Do you think because of the lack of the so called “Good Man” women accept cheating?
Yes. Many women don’t know what a good man is to get one. If you have never known a "Good Man" then you have no idea what one is. For example, if your father cheated and lied to your mother all the time he is the best example you have. All you know is to not to pick out a man exactly like him, but at the same time you still dont know what your looking for. If you don't have a good example of a good man then you will always accept that bullshit treatment.

Another reason is women settle with a man that cheats because they desperately need someone in their lives. It's just sad when you have that desperate feeling or need for someone in your life.

Do you think men accept cheat as much as women do?
Hell No!! Some men see it as you cheated and I’m not accepting that shit, it's over I’m done. Women choose to take men back after they cheat and in some cases they beg them to be back in their lives.

What the Men have to say on the Subject.

These are just a few opinions from YouTube. These videos are not a representation of my opinion on the subject!

The Main Question.

I would like to get an idea of why both men and women think the other cheats. So the first questions will be:

Women, why do you think men cheat?
Women, why do women cheat?

Men, why do you think women cheat?
Men,why do men cheat?

Not a Male bashing blog!!

I'm starting this blog to get some information from men and women. There have been many answers to the question, but none seem to truly answer it. Cheating has been stereotyped to Men, were women cheat just as much as men. I'm going to be posting questions about cheating to give both men and women an equal chance to answer. I just want to know honest opinions about the subject from both sides. Maybe then we can find a middle.